Friday, December 9, 2016

When the Boyfriend is Away... Time to Play

Transitioning from a single woman to a relationship has been pretty tough for me. They say change is good, but when you're accustomed to your single lifestyle for as long as I have, well the change can be frightening.

As I blog this, Nestor is on his way to New York with his friends and although I wished I could've gone, I'll just have to wait for the next time. He's going to see the Cowboys play the Giants and I'm sure that will be an incredible game.

At the same time, I'm glad because I get to have some ME time and I always look forward to that. For one, I'm going to a Christmas party I have gone to every year for the past 5 years and I wish he would've gone with me so I can show him off as my boyfriend, but going solo is sure to be fun.

Then I'm going to keep binge watching Gilmore Girls on Netflix accompanied with hot cocoa and sitting by the fireplace. I'm sure I'll watch Elf, which is one of my favorite Christmas movies I don't ever get tired of.

Also need to swing by my storage to get my winter electric blanket. It's funny how you almost forget the things you have until you find them in storage or cleaning around your place.

Back to the transitioning though, I guess the change was scary because I had a lot of fears that surfaced and I wasn't sure how to handle them. I read this one article that talked about 4 Common Relationship Fears. What I mainly took from it is that you have to be conscious that you'll have to think of someone else and not just yourself anymore. It can be stressful too but something worth having doesn't come easy. You have to work it out.

How do y'all like to spend your ME time?

Tuesday, December 6, 2016

How We Met: The Only Exception

Do y'all remember on that movie, He's Just Not That Into You, how Gigi came to realize she was the rule and not the exception after watching Some Kind of Wonderful? Like Gigi, I had that exact realization for the longest time and was convinced I was the rule until recently. Suddenly and quite unexpectedly I transitioned to becoming the exception.

Right before I met Nestor, I was on the brink of getting off the dating app, Tinder.

I went on at least 4 dates and had talked to like 6 guys since I got back on the app in August. For the most part, none of those first dates got a second date and I started to lose hope. I just kept feeling silly that I was trying to put myself out there and was getting nowhere.

What was more disconcerting was when I met up with one guy and he didn't even buy me a cup of coffee. My ego was hurt because I felt at that moment that he didn't think I was worth it. In the grand scheme of things, it's not a big deal yet it's the little things that make an impact.

The only impact that made was that I needed to run the other way and fast.

So when Nestor and I started chatting on this app after we matched, I liked how patient he was. He seemed very interested and would have conversations with me, even if I was a little short with my replies because I was starting to hate Tinder altogether. I was mentally exhausted and checked out.

We actually Skyped first just to break the ice and he didn't have my number yet because he hadn't asked for it. By this time we were chatting already for about a week and a half. I asked him why he hadn't asked for my number and he said he didn't want to rush anything. That right there made an impression on me.

In this day and age, guys are quick to rush because they want to speed things up without getting to know the other person. It can be girls too, but we're talking about guys here.

So Nestor stood out to me and I don't know why I kept smiling during our Skype, but he just made me feel comfortable.

Our first date was going to be over the weekend, but when he asked to meet very spur of the moment on a Friday night, I was on board. Even though, I knew this was most likely going to be my last date from Tinder I wanted to set that notion aside and just see what happens.

We met at Buffalo Wild Wings because that's a pretty laid back place and that's also my favorite sports bar to go to. So I get there after he does because I'm always fashionably late (my on time friends hate me for this but oh well), but he had only waited like 2 minutes so I wasn't THAT late.

When I saw him in person, I felt something different. I don't know if it was butterflies, but I just kept smiling like an idiot. Thankfully he thought I was adorable and complimented my smile. I just kept thinking he's so much better looking in person and I thought he was so handsome. Hubba hubba!

I found out those little details you find on a first date and by the time the date ended (after a solid 2 and a half hours), he had already asked me out on a second date- to the State Fair. I mentioned it so he picked up on my hint and I was glad.

The first date curse was over because here we were, on our way to a second date. I was so excited and when I got home, I told my dad that I think I found a good one.

I found out later that he was also about to get off Tinder and he was convinced by a friend to keep it a little longer and shortly after he met me.

Needless to say, I met my boyfriend unexpectedly and I feel like he came out of nowhere because I was so used to the jerks and being jaded that he completely blew me away just by being himself. He is a man who wants to do anything to make me happy and I just feel so lucky and grateful. He was definitely worth the wait.

I hope that gave y'all a glimpse of how NesTea and I met. For my single peeps, don't give up because your other half is out there and you'll eventually become the only exception.

Wednesday, November 30, 2016

Bye Thanksgiving:. Hello Christmas~

My mind is blank after Thanksgiving. You could say that it went on vacation because no matter how hard I try to get it to focus, it's just being stubborn and I don't know what to do. So since it's on a blog vacay I guess I will just do a recap of what I've been up to these last few days.

Thanksgiving was pretty laid back as I did absolutely nothing but stuff my face with turkey, stuffing, sides and pie. It was glorious. Of course watched the Cowboys game which I was happy they won! I didn't take that many pics except the one with Nestor.

On Friday after Thanksgiving, I went to the Stars game with Nestor and his son. Yes, my boyfriend is a father and his son is 15. I'm not gonna lie but I was nervous to meet his kid, but after it happened I'm glad that I met him. NesTea is so cute because he wanted me to wear Stars' gear and got me a Stars hoodie sweatshirt. Now it's actually one of my favorite hoodies to wear.

Since he spent his days off with his son, I had a lot of much needed ME time.

I had plenty of beauty sleep, started watching Black Mirror on Netflix, which I will have to do a post about it because it was that good. I also started watching Gilmore Girls (Season 1) since I never watched it when it came out for some reason.

I didn't even drive for 3 straight days. So that tells you I pretty much stayed home and recharged my batteries sorta speak.

Now that Christmas is here, I've been listening to Christmas music. I'm also going to decorate my room with Christmas lights since my sister inspired me with her room.

Give me all the salted caramel lattes and I'm a happy girl.

Later this week I'm going to a Maxwell concert with Nestor and it will be our first concert together. I am really looking forward to it because now is the time that we get to do things together and it's our little adventure. We're so lucky to have found each other.

I want to share on my blog soon about how we met and so this way you guys can see a little more about me so stay tuned.

How was your Thanksgiving? Have you done any Christmas spirit related things?

Thursday, November 24, 2016

Thankful & Blessed

It's always the shortest weeks that feel the longest, don't they? Thanksgiving is finally here and I know for me it felt like it took forever for it to get here. Before I go into what I'm thankful for I just want to share the mental battle I had to overcome and the end result.

There's this song I heard last week that I really connected with and it's been a long time since I've felt touched by a song, it was like magic. I just kept saying to myself wow, that song is about me!

It just makes me laugh because I would often tell him to give me some space (physically and metaphorically). I'm not sure if you guys have heard of the love languages, but there's 5 of them: Quality Time, Physical Touch, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Words of Affirmation.

If you don't know what yours is, you can take a quiz to find out. {Comment with what yours was, I'm curious}. Mine are words of affirmation and quality time. Nestor's is physical touch and quality time. So it's been interesting trying to compromise because I don't like to be constantly touched where it tickles. I just need quality time, give me compliments, write me letters, encouragement.

That being said, there were situations that were about to become real and even though I thought I was fine with it, as time ticked on, I realized I wasn't ready. I acted on my emotions, on my impulses and now I was freaking out that I put myself into a pickle. So my brain went into overdrive figuring out what to do to resolve this problem I was facing. What's more frustrating is that I couldn't find the answers right away and it took several hours and energy thinking of a solution.

I even stayed up til 4am one night and got only 4 hours of sleep. Not fun.

It all boiled down to communicating with Nestor. Once I did, I was scared, but I knew I had to do it because the problem was going to get bigger if I didn't address it head on. He is such an amazing person because I knew it wasn't a treat hearing what I was feeling, but after a day he reassured me he understands where I'm coming from.

Anytime we've had talks like this, it makes me so happy that I have a good man. It also makes my feelings for him grow stronger and that's always a good feeling.

{I can't tell y'all exactly what the problem is because time needs to take place before I can really get real on my blog. I wouldn't want someone to stumble on my blog and feel salty as a result. I will share soon enough though.}
When I think about how my life was exactly a year ago, it was quite the opposite. I was heartbroken because the guy I dated at work was two timing me with a fellow coworker and that was such a nightmare. I've grown so much from that experience as well as the hardships I went through earlier this year.

To now have Nestor in my life is such a blessing. To be surrounded by my family who I get to wake up to every day is such a blessing. To have a job where my coworkers are so nice and have my back is a blessing. To be back in my hometown where I grew up makes me feel centered and safe, that's a blessing. To have my health is definitely a blessing. To have my wonderful readers check back on my blog even when I blog sporadically, that's one hell of a blessing.

I'm thankful that I didn't let fear win and rob me of the joy I now feel when I look into Nestor's eyes. I've been alone for so long that my old habits were fighting to keep things the same and not welcome the change; the new relationship. My brain was resisting hardcore and even dared to give up altogether. My heart was battling my mind though because it knows that this man won't break it, instead he's filled it with tenderness and care.

The heart won. The brain finally shut up.

I looked up this IG poet RM Drake and he's on to something. I need to read his books because his poetry is on fleek. Just sayin.

He's right though. Overthinking like I have done, complicates things. I realized later after the battle was over that I was mostly fearful because I don't want to lose him. I have waited for so long to have someone like him and I was psyching myself out. So annoying.

I told him the other night that I can never leave him because I adore him. That's the truth. Why would I? He's the best thing that's ever happened to me and I'm kicking myself that I was almost sabotaging what we have because fear wanted to take the wheel. Pfft. Crazy.

Anyway, I hope y'all have a blessed and hearty Happy Thanksgiving with your loved ones! Eat lots of turkey and don't do too much shopping! Much love from Dallas, xo.

PS. I want to share this pic I took of him last week. He hates this pic but I love it because I like the way he's looking at me as I snapped this. Just add the hearts onto his eyes, haha. My handsome.

Friday, November 18, 2016

Happy Friday

I don't know about y'all, but boy I'm glad the weekend is here! My calendar is clear and the only thing I plan on doing is binge watching some shows and movies. Because I need to recover from this hectic week, Netflix is in order. Maybe some reading too.

This week was totally different for me for a few reasons.

My job trained us last minute to learn about new products so that we can make more money, yasss! Because of the training, our schedules were changed last minute for us to come in at 8am. I usually work at 10am, so 8am is extremely hard for me to go back to but at least today is the last day.

Then I went to a networking event with Nestor and we met some interesting people. It was out of my normal routine, but I feel like it's always good to network with people. When I introduced Nestor to this one lady, I accidentally called him my friend. Then I caught myself and switched it to "boyfriend". It's gonna take some getting used to because I haven't used that word in SO LONG.

It's also an adjustment for him, but it's not a bad problem to have.

On my day off the other day, I went to my storage to get some more winter clothes like scarves and boots. I hate having my things in storage, but I know that in a few months I will be able to move out of there and start fresh in a new house. I can't go back to apartments anymore because I've gotten used to living in houses and I like the privacy anyway.

I'm excited though that sometime next year I will be all moved out of my parents house, God willing.

I haven't posted my nails as of late so here they are. I was in the mood for a dark fall red gel color and I love how it goes with everything. 

Now that I'm in a relationship, it's become a juggling act with spending time with my boo and also do the things I need to do in my own life. It's a different path, but I love it and will figure it out as I go along.

I just can't stop smiling and I guess you could say we're in that honeymoon stage. Loooooove it!

What about you loves? Any plans this weekend? Anyone else binge watching anything? Suggestions are welcomed. Have a great weekend!