Do y’all remember on that movie, He’s Just Not That Into You, how Gigi came to realize she was the rule and not the exception after watching Some Kind of Wonderful? Like Gigi, I had that exact realization for the longest time and was convinced I was the rule until recently. Suddenly and quite unexpectedly I transitioned to becoming the exception.
Right before I met Nestor, I was on the brink of getting off the dating app, Tinder.
I went on at least 4 dates and had talked to like 6 guys since I got back on the app in August. For the most part, none of those first dates got a second date and I started to lose hope. I just kept feeling silly that I was trying to put myself out there and was getting nowhere.
What was more disconcerting was when I met up with one guy and he didn’t even buy me a cup of coffee. My ego was hurt because I felt at that moment that he didn’t think I was worth it. In the grand scheme of things, it’s not a big deal yet it’s the little things that make an impact.
The only impact that made was that I needed to run the other way and fast.
So when Nestor and I started chatting on this app after we matched, I liked how patient he was. He seemed very interested and would have conversations with me, even if I was a little short with my replies because I was starting to hate Tinder altogether. I was mentally exhausted and checked out.
We actually Skyped first just to break the ice and he didn’t have my number yet because he hadn’t asked for it. By this time we were chatting already for about a week and a half. I asked him why he hadn’t asked for my number and he said he didn’t want to rush anything. That right there made an impression on me.
In this day and age, guys are quick to rush because they want to speed things up without getting to know the other person. It can be girls too, but we’re talking about guys here.
So Nestor stood out to me and I don’t know why I kept smiling during our Skype, but he just made me feel comfortable.
Our first date was going to be over the weekend, but when he asked to meet very spur of the moment on a Friday night, I was on board. Even though, I knew this was most likely going to be my last date from Tinder I wanted to set that notion aside and just see what happens.
We met at Buffalo Wild Wings because that’s a pretty laid back place and that’s also my favorite sports bar to go to. So I get there after he does because I’m always fashionably late (my on time friends hate me for this but oh well), but he had only waited like 2 minutes so I wasn’t THAT late.
When I saw him in person, I felt something different. I don’t know if it was butterflies, but I just kept smiling like an idiot. Thankfully he thought I was adorable and complimented my smile. I just kept thinking he’s so much better looking in person and I thought he was so handsome. Hubba hubba!
I found out those little details you find on a first date and by the time the date ended (after a solid 2 and a half hours), he had already asked me out on a second date- to the State Fair. I mentioned it so he picked up on my hint and I was glad.
The first date curse was over because here we were, on our way to a second date. I was so excited and when I got home, I told my dad that I think I found a good one.
I found out later that he was also about to get off Tinder and he was convinced by a friend to keep it a little longer and shortly after he met me.
Needless to say, I met my boyfriend unexpectedly and I feel like he came out of nowhere because I was so used to the jerks and being jaded that he completely blew me away just by being himself. He is a man who wants to do anything to make me happy and I just feel so lucky and grateful. He was definitely worth the wait.
I hope that gave y’all a glimpse of how NesTea and I met. For my single peeps, don’t give up because your other half is out there and you’ll eventually become the only exception.